Posts by Wenda

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The Lesson in Music Lessons

Have you ever thought about how the choices you make shape the life you experience?  Would it surprise you to...

Napoleon Hills 10 rules for Success

Napoleon Hill – 10 Rules for Success

Just a quick note. This morning I decided to do my “educational listening” to Napoleon Hill. And I thought I...

emotional scale

Emotional Scale – And How to Use It

In yesterday’s workshop we talked about how to FEEL better about situations and circumstances. Sometimes it’s difficult to be observing what...

its a wonderful world, quote by harvey fierstein

BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!!! New Business Direction

BIG NEWS!  Health Wellness & Success will be transitioning to HW Success.   Starting September 15th, Health Wellness & Success...

21 day challange Make today ridiculously amazing PODCAST

Day 6: Finding Something New in Today – 21 Day Design Your Life Challenge

Day 6: Finding Something New in Today – 21 Day Design Your Life Challenge Do you ever wake up feeling...

Day 5 – Finding your soul purpose in what you already know

Day 5 – Finding your soul purpose in what you already know

Day 5: Go with the Flow or Finding your soul purpose in what you already know Recently I’ve been listening to...

Day 4 – 21 Day Design Amazing Life Challenge

Day 4 – 21 Day Design Amazing Life Challenge

Day 4 – Journaling and your brain “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but...

21 day challange Make today ridiculously amazing PODCAST

Day 3 – 21 Day Challenge Design an Amazing Life

Day 3 Who You Are To You “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the...

21 day challange Make today ridiculously amazing PODCAST

Day 2: 21 Day Challenge Make Today Ridiculously Amazing

One of the biggest arguments against being able to intentionally design your life is the thought that, “If it were...

Make today ridiculously amazing

21 Day Design Your Life Challenge ~ Day 1

The Challenge I like 21 day challenges because they create just enough evidence for me to really understand that almost...

How to heal the emotional pen

How to Heal the Emotional Pen

One day you picked up a pen.  Maybe someone asked you to pick it up, maybe you saw it and...

the gift of the insult

Refusing to Accept the Insult or The Gift of the Insult

Recently I had an opportunity to “practice what I preach” so to speak.  Someone that I personally know, was intentionally...

health wellness and success prosperity codea

Bringing Prosperity Back

Have you noticed how little the word “prosperity” is used today in conversation and the media? It’s almost portrayed as...

the key to success

Law of Attraction Coaching, what’s all the hullabaloo?

What’s all the hullabaloo about The Law of Attraction? Well, for starters Law of Attraction Coaching encourages you to think...

GO OUT THERE AND DO AMAZING THINGS

Respond vs. React

A car cuts you off on the highway.  Do you respond or react? Someone takes the last [insert something desired]...

motivation is not permanent it must be renewed every day

Permanent Motivation

In the words of Zig Ziglar, “Motivation is not permanent, but then neither is bathing. …that doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t...

imagine your happiness with www.healthwellnessandsuccess.com

Easily Reduce Stress

Stress is one of those words.  We can all agree on the literal definition, but the word carries such strong...

52 week challenge saving 1 dollar a day equals 1378

52 Week Money Challenge and Adventure

This morning my Facebook wall was abuzz with a long list of things we can do this coming year to...

It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell. - buddha

Finding Your Flow

My morning ritual is enrichment.  Not scholarly latin or mathematics but personal enrichment.  Many times it feels like enlightenment, because...

life pie

Unlock your Creativity with… pie!

About 30 years ago someone gave me the book, “The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity” by Julia...

happy person rules

What People Don’t Understand About Happy People

Dear Mostly Unhappy Person, Yesterday you caught me being unhappy.  Yes, the shocking truth is that happy people aren’t always happy.  The fact is sometimes; …we really really want that new job and we’re disappointed that we don’t get it. …we stub our toe on the corner of the kids bed and it freaking hurts, …

waking up divorced single mom's guide to an amazing life

Single Mom’s Bill of Rights

Single Mom's Bill of Rights: You have the right to true love. You have the right to find it in surprising ways and places. You have the right to fall in love with yourself, to create a person whose self-worth isn't tied up in a relationship, but a person who is so aware of self-worth that you are the confident leader of your life.

Waking Up Divorced - Single Mom's Guide to an amazing life

Waking Up Divorced – A Single Mom’s Guide to an Amazing Life

I’m very excited to announce my latest book, Waking Up Divorced – A Single Mom’s Guide to an Amazing Life. I have included almost all of the tips, tricks and processes that I have learned from such people as Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Stephen Covey, Deepak Chopra, Lisa Nichols and more. I’ll be scheduling some …

Time is precious treat it like money in the bank

Are you living on your “default” setting?

What’s a default setting? Well, when you click the print button in Microsoft Word, whatever printer generates your document is your “default” printer.  And that’s actually what got me to thinking about default setting this morning, because for the life of me, I could not get anything to print.  Nothing and it turned out I …

you can never solve a problem on the leve l on which it was created

Recognizing the Level of the Problem

One of my favorite quotes has been attributed to Albert Einstein, “You can never solve a problem on the level...

secret challenge that will change your life

Secret Challenge – that will change your life!

Are you happy right now? Think about it, I don’t mean mildly happy, I mean exploding with creativity and wonder...

Top Secret Experiment – Personal & Private will Change your Life

Top Secret Experiment – Personal & Private will Change your Life

Are you happy right now? Think about it, I don’t mean mildly happy, I mean exploding with creativity and wonder & awe happy? Do you want to be that happy? Do you believe that your happiness is in direct result to the things that happen to you? Do you believe that you are in control …

Can you really Think your Happiness?

Can you really Think your Happiness?

I think Stephen Covey said it best, “until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change The new psychology of success …

How to Attract the Coolest Man

How to Attract the Coolest Man

Do you want to know the secret to attracting the coolest man?  Do you want to know how to attract the most fantastic relationship and heart warming love affair into your life? Who doesn’t…  but I didn’t lure you here with that enticing headline only to let you down by pummeling you with my pithy …

Pretty Boxes

Pretty Boxes

My box is covered with flowers and multi-faceted gems that I hot glued on, I’ve put in favorite stones with soil and fairy furniture. It’s relaxing and beautiful and whimsical. Sitting in the fairy chair I look around and decide that I’ll paint the sides of the box.  That’s when I realize I’m “in the box”. …

Unblock to Unlock Your Success

Don’t buy the gimmick of Happiness

I read something over the weekend that really resonated with me, and helped me understand why some of my peers...

balance feels good

Why We Love Meditation (And You Should, Too!)

Recently in a mad fit of anxious New Year resolution making, I realized that stating what I wanted to change...

How to lose weight without changing what you eat – Lesson One

How to lose weight without changing what you eat – Lesson One

I’ve decided to take you with me on my journey to lose 40 pounds.  First, let me tell you that I’m a tall person, so my actual weight numbers are usually much higher than the average person, perhaps that’s helped me to place less emphasis on my actual weight, and more emphasis … on how …

Your Habit of Financial Worry

Your Habit of Financial Worry

Shocking I know…  almost sacrilegious… “a HABIT you say?” “As if I would choose to have these troubles!” I realize I’ve just lost several readers, but here’s the thing, you are where you are, doing what you are doing, because of choices and decisions.  How you think about what you think about is also a …

Is your awareness blocking your success?

Is your awareness blocking your success?

This week has been a crazy week, between my coaching appointments, working on my coaching academy launch and my wonderful children.  I’ve been feeling like I am constantly catching up to appointments, events and “things” and never really getting ahead or on top of any of my situations.  Do you know that feeling?  Like, every …

Word-of-mouth marketing is a crucial component of organic growth for startups and one of the primary ways that Weebly has grown to over 15 million customers. David Rusenko

How to jump start your word of mouth advertising in 5 easy steps

Word of mouth advertising is centuries old and has gone a number of name make overs, such as: heard it...

There is no magic or alchemy involved in changing your life, you must simply decide to change something

How to Intentionally Change Your LIfe

There are very few people who can honestly say they are extremely happy with every aspect of their life.  The...

Do what you feel in your heart to be right, you will be criticized anyway

Negative Criticism

This morning I read my first negative review, ever.  It was quite a blow.  It’s not that I thought everyone...

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. William James

How To: 8 Ways to Reduce Stress

People are and have always had a great deal of stress, finding ways to reduce stress isn’t always easy, especially...

Lessons I learned from Toddlers & Tiara’s

Lessons I learned from Toddlers & Tiara’s

As the last week of summer ends, the kids and I are finally back from our gallivanting around the east coast. Clifford, the big red mini-van has been sufficiently broken in and has driven with flying colors.  The Rosie the wonder dog, has a new car harness and dog bed, and all of the kids …

Dorothy had it right…. sort of

Dorothy had it right…. sort of

Here I am, it’s 6:06 am, I’m writing as I look out onto one of the loveliest sights on the planet, a murkie dawn on a Maine Lake, in a modern “camp”.  I have never seen so many shades of green and there are so many windows that when I’m upstairs in the loft area …

several words that dissolve when repeated

several words that dissolve when repeated

FARM Farm is a word, that when I say it over and over again, when I really think about the sounds I’m making to form the word and when I elongate it, say it with a staccato, you know, play around with it, it eventually dissolves.  I eventually start to wonder, is it really a …

lessons from the lemonade stand and big refrigerator boxes

lessons from the lemonade stand and big refrigerator boxes

Yesterday I relearned a lesson from my children that I want to share with you. Lemonade Stands. My daughter and her friends sat on our neighborhood corner, with their neon pink signs, homemade lemonade and danced and sang and encouraged everything that went by (and within hearing distance) to come over and try their lemonade. …

Life’s too short for fat free half and half…. or is it?

Life’s too short for fat free half and half…. or is it?

Today’s post is about me.  Not a friend, not a client, not a neighbor… me.  I love my morning coffee, from the smell of it brewing in my drip coffee pot, to the creamy tan color in my ceramic cup.  I’m not a coffee snob, as much as I am a half and half radical. …

…about finding purpose and meaning in life

…about finding purpose and meaning in life

There are a few simple rules to finding purpose and meaning in life.  I’m not saying that it’s simple to actually recognize your purpose and acknowledge the meaning, I am however, saying there there are a few simple steps that will put you in the right place at the right time. Number One: Don’t make …

Normal doesn’t mean true

Normal doesn’t mean true

I simply adore Deepak Chopra and am currently listening to his new book through audible called,  Spiritual Solutions.  As usual his prose and narration is both thought provoking and soothing at the same time.  When I made the decision to schedule 30 minutes of enrichment each day, I never imagined that it would be so …. …

4 Simple Steps to Succeed in Anything

4 Simple Steps to Succeed in Anything

OK, I say these steps are simple, but the truth of the matter is, you will recognize the steps, you will agree with the steps, you will understand the steps, and you still may not do the steps. There are a lot of reasons you don’t do things.  You don’t do things because you don’t’ …

The power of who you are to you… by thinking “I am”

The power of who you are to you… by thinking “I am”

The power of “I Am” Thousands of times throughout the day, we each judge and evaluate situations and circumstances. More importantly, we look at the reactions of other people, or the results of our efforts and we make “I am” statements.  These comments to ourselves to tell us how we’re doing and who we are. …

….encouraging eye candy

….encouraging eye candy

Sometimes a picture is worth a thousands words… and sometimes, those pictures have words… does that make it worth… more? Here are a few of my favorite encouraging meme’s that I’ve created so far this year. Now take a deep breath… and enjoy this intentional visual meditation!  :)               …

I have a dream… and you should too

I have a dream… and you should too

Did you know that experts suggest professionals that visualize their success are 98% more likely to reach their goals and achieve or exceed their target? Yeah, I made that statistic up.  However, according to Psychology Today “Brain studies now reveal that thoughts produce the same mental instructions as actions. Mental imagery impacts many cognitive processes in the …

Thanks for Stopping By

Thanks for Stopping By

  Thanks for taking the time to stop by and read my blog, or read about what I do. If...

Top 5 Reasons to Brainstorm

Top 5 Reasons to Brainstorm

#1) Possibilities #2) Possibilities #3) More possibilities #4) Possibilities (did I say that already) #5) Possibilities (ok, I think you get it) I think you get my point.  Brainstorming has always been used as a tool of the great thinkers. Why, because of our imagination.  Brainstorming is amazingly effective because it doesn’t concentrate on answering …

Perfection – The Stall Factor

Perfection – The Stall Factor

One of the best ways to build a reputation as an expert or to build an email list for your company or product is to “launch”… something.  :)  ANYTHING.   The two main reasons reasons to put something together to offer potential clients or readers are: 1. It starts an external conversation between you and …

…You must want to be different

…You must want to be different

Ah Neville… how you delight my desire for mind twisting thought!   Today I fell in love with Neville Goddard, because his middle name was Lancelot!  I mean, come on girls who doesn’t love a man whose name harkens back to knights in shining armor.  But alas, I was introduced to Neville Lancelot Goddard 30 …

So, you want to build a website.

So, you want to build a website.

This morning’s topic will address the SUCCESS part of Health Wellness & Success.  As you know I’m a professional coach and I work primarily with wellness professionals and help them take their simple step to their success.  Many times my coaching sessions are about clarifying goals and formulating actions steps and then theirs the other …

Don’t be a judge… just be.

Don’t be a judge… just be.

The take away of this post is:  Don’t be a judge… just be. If you don’t read another word I’m about to write, I’ll feel like I’ve done my job if you take a moment to consider that statement.  Think about the possibilities if you didn’t judge; other people, situations, circumstances, your past, your potential …

How are you living?

How are you living?

“How are you living?” seems like a strange question, and yet, it’s a question that many people don’t think to ask of themselves.   Your immediate answer may have something to do with your physical living arrangements like, in an apartment, or with your children, but I’m talking about something much deeper.  I’m really asking …

… on comfort

… on comfort

Would you walk across a fast moving stream, hopping from stone to stone… just to get to the other side?   Maybe not. Would you do it to save a life?  Probably. Our comfort level is usually not something that we think about as a changing thing.  For instance, I am VERY uncomfortable around spiders. …

…on being authentic

…on being authentic

What’s the hardest part about starting your own business?  You guessed it, getting new clients or customers. I know, I know, your product or services are so awesome, that you don’t understand why people aren’t busting down your door to book an appointment.   Guess what… you might need to do a little more “selling”. …

…. on letting go …

…. on letting go …

Right now I’m listening to The Think Big Manifesto, by Michael Port, on audible. As a little side note: I really enjoy listening to Michael Port. And if you’re having any challenges or need any assistance booking clients, you should run, (not walk) out and get “Book Yourself Solid“…  now. Back to the Think Big …

Don't judge yourself by what you think other people will think, you be you. Wenda O'Neill

… who are you … to you?

The other day I was interviewing my friend and colleague Mary Ellen Hatton founder of Your Dreams Your Goals Life Coaching.  We’re  preparing to offer a free video segment on Meditation to Relieve Stress. She said something that really resonated to me. She said, “Don’t judge”, and went on to explain that initially when she …

…how do you listen?

…how do you listen?

Yesterday, the kids and I were going to meet friends to go to a concert in a park.  We took an interstate to our friends’ house and when I took our exit, I saw a young man standing on the grassy shoulder between the road and the concrete of the highway rising up past him.  …

…about finding your life’s purpose…

…about finding your life’s purpose…

Hmmm, “…about finding your life’s purpose…” WOW, pretty heavy topic, right?  …You life’s Purpose…  Actually, it’s doesn’t have to be all that heavy; in fact, it can be as pleasant has daydreaming as you sit outside on a warm spring day. However there are a few pre-requisites, for your daydream. (take special note:  these 2 …

the purpose of our lives is to be happy, the Dalai Lama

…about finding your life’s purpose…

Hmmm, “…about finding your life’s purpose…” WOW, pretty heavy topic, right?  …You life’s Purpose…  Actually, it’s doesn’t have to be...

…are you a kite or a magician?

…are you a kite or a magician?

“Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being. Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are. Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world.” ― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching The Modern Martyr: a person who sacrifices something …

Today was good. Today was fun. Tomorrow is another one.Dr. Seuss

… are you a kite or a magician?

“Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of...

…is the weather really designed to malign?

…is the weather really designed to malign?

Do you take heavy traffic personally? You know, as if all of the other cars on the road are there specifically to make you late for where-ever you are going? Do you believe that poor weather is a personal affront and should be dealt with through frustration and verbal abuse? Are you a … COMPLAINER? …

complaining doesn't work as a strategy

…is the weather really designed to malign?

Do you take heavy traffic personally?  You know, as if all of the other cars on the road are there...

…and you believed them

…and you believed them

Ask yourself, why you believe what other people say.  I read a quote this morning, that I can’t find because my Facebook wall is a fickle creature…  the quote  left me with the impression that we should stop believing people who would have us limit our dreams. Yes, that part is true, don’t believe it… …

What if, I am that person?

What if, I am that person?

What if you wake up one morning and realize that, you are the person that is always negative? What if you wake up one morning and realize that, you are the person that “plays the devil’s advocate”? (aka the arguer) What if you wake up one morning and you realize that, you are the person …

Are you blocking your success?

Are you blocking your success?

There’s a very simple test to see if you are allowing and accepting the things that will help you experience success or if you are blocking them.   I know you may find it hard to believe that someone would block good things from happening, but it’s true.   Consider this, if your eyes are closed …

Two most powerful words

Are you blocking your success?

There’s a very simple test to see if you are allowing and accepting the things that will help you experience...

Due to circumstances beyond our control…

Due to circumstances beyond our control…

I think it’s interesting how much we THINK we control versus how much we really control. Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now. Denis Waitley I have a very strict gun control policy: if there’s a …

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Due To Circumstances Beyond Our Control…

I think it’s interesting how much we THINK we control versus how much we really control. Learn from the past,...

Who does your success look like?

Who does your success look like?

Today’s challenge is to determine WHO your success looks like. You may be thinking, “but Wenda, how can my success look like anyone other than me?” Creating the profile of your perfect customer as the WHO of your success. Why do you think it’s important to have a clear vision of your perfect customer?  If you know who you …

A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment

Who does your success look like?

Today’s challenge is to determine WHO your success looks like. You may be thinking, “but Wenda, how can my success...

Hardest Daily List Ever…

Hardest Daily List Ever…

What’s the hardest list you’ve ever had to create? Grocery list? I say on a scale of 1 to 10, depending on your current dietary needs and finances and store availability… could be as high as a 7, and sometimes as low as a 2. Birthday Gift List?  Wedding gift list?  List of things needed …

May I ask you a question?… more importantly, will you take a moment to answer?

May I ask you a question?… more importantly, will you take a moment to answer?

Last night I had the opportunity to speak to my great friend and fellow life coach, Mary Ellen Hatton.   She runs the successful coaching business, Your Dreams Your Goals Life Coaching.   I’m pleased to announce that we’ve decided to collaborate and put together a LIVE meditation session…. FREE! Mary Ellen holds a MSed, PhD from …

Meditation is the tongue of the soul and the language of our spirit. Jeremy Taylor

May I ask you a question?…more importantly would you send me your answer?

Last night I had the opportunity to speak to my great friend and fellow life coach, Mary Ellen Hatton.  ...

Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude

Hardest Daily List Ever

What’s the hardest list you’ve ever had to create? Grocery list? I say on a scale of 1 to 10,...

You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible

Finding your Possibilities

If you want to find your possibilities… you are going to need to ask. I normally try to steer away...

you can not fix a problem by continuing to do the same things that created it

Change what you think to Change your life…

This is the worst kept secret of Life Coaching, “Change how you think, to change your life”. I say the...

If you are depressed you are living in the past, if you are anxious you are living in the future, if you are at peace you are living in the present

Getting rid of the “negative vibe”

This week has been a little wonky for me, I started 3 articles and kept them all in my draft...

#naturalselectioncan'tcreate, #Youcreate

3 Steps to improve your definition of IMPROVEMENT

STEP #1 Realize, I mean truly understand that your sense of improvement is YOURS.  Your idea or value, of what...

On the Fence

More about you… and your internal music

I love that we all have history.  The challenge, I believe is to view all of our history, the good...

Speak nicely to yourself 'cause you are listening

Mutterings… Meanderings… of a Mad Mom

Have you ever heard your words….  come out of your child’s mouth? At my age, my friends and I joke...

Top 5 toxic words

Top 10 Words that Defeat and Destroy

If you have read ANYTHING I have ever written, than you know I’m ALL ABOUT being positive. Positive self talk…...

start thinking more about what you are and less about what you are not

Your honest answer is required…

I’d like you to be brutally honest with me… Are you who you say you are? Strange question right, but...

Do you have the patience

Deliberately waiting

By a show of hands, how many people have no patience for waiting in line? It’s not really the line,...

your gifts will take you places that will amaze you

Thank you … to you

This morning is one of those awesome mornings of light rain.  I adore the sound of it as it lightly...

To see things in the seed, that is genius -Lao Tzu

You aren’t who you were yesterday

None of us are who we were yesterday.  I mean, whether we are talking about the seemingly millions of yesterday’s...

Every moment of light and dark is a miracle. Walt Whitman

Your Unseen List

An interesting thought has been brought to my attention and it’s the fact that we all have an unseen list...

key to failure is trying to please everyone

Sometimes … You just aren’t ready

Do you want big success? It’s simple. If you don’t currently HAVE big success, than doing the same thing over...

our response is our freedom

Your Choice / Your Power … to Vent or Stew

Have you ever spoken to someone that just wanted to “vent”, but instead what they really wanted to was to...

experience thankfulness

Experience Thankfulness

Wow the birds are really loud this morning, and it’s great and wonderful and I don’t know why, but I...

when we feel beauty

Do you feel… beauty?

The words, “When we feel beauty, we know it as truth” were written by Rabindranath Thakur also known as Rabindranath Tagore.  ...

cubicles don't have doors

Cubicles Don’t Have Doors

This phrase has stuck in my head since I read it.  You are NEVER going to believe where I read...

#encouragement, #dance, #enjoy

Three Things You Do to Ruin Your Day

Let me start with an amazing quote, “I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be,...

Encouragement in a post

Encouragement in a post

This morning I wanted to just post some random great quotes… and I’m hoping that one… ok… maybe two, but...

I expect miracles

Expect Miracles

Just a quick note today…. On expecting miracles. Yesterday morning we were all late getting out of the house… My...