Letting Go versus Running Away

Many people confuse the act of “letting go” with the You are the only person you can controlaction of “running away”.

Here’s the difference…

Letting Go is a choice.  Letting go is a specific decision to let go of something or someone.

Running away, implies that there is no choice but to make no decision, but rather to get as far away from a decision as possible.  That, however, is really a decision.  The person has decided to hide.

If “letting go” and “running away” are both decisions, why would someone choose the harder of the two, “letting go” over the much easier “running and hiding” choice.

Letting Go is a positive move, whereas running away is a negative move.  You can “let go” of something and physically remove yourself from the situation or circumstance.  Many times,  other people may actually accuse you of running away… however, concerning yourself with what other people say or do, is all part of letting go.  By letting go, you understand that you only control you.

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” 
― Steve Maraboli

The other part about “letting go” is the blame game. Once you have decided that running away won’t help… once you have decided that you are in control of… you. THEN you can move forward and start to build the life that you want. You may still have your same job, you may still have your same apartment or house, but it’s you. It’s not your situation or circumstances that dictates your life.

It’s not that things are happening to you… but rather, things are happening with your consent.

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
― Ann Landers

“Renew, release, let go. Yesterday’s gone. There’s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can’t “should’ve” done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!”
― Steve Maraboli,

The take away from today’s post is… Choose.  Decide.   Don’t feel like a victim of circumstance, because you don’t have to be.  Every moment of every day you can take a moment and think.  Be thankful for the people in your life, even if they completely aggravate you… Be thankful for that cup of coffee… even if you only got a few sips before you spilled it.

…and let go of the things you can’t control.  Don’t run away, just Let It Go.   Don’t say, “I don’t care”  Tell yourself, “I really care, but this is their decision not mine”  … or “I only have control over myself and the best I can do it set a great example of how I want other people to behave”

REALLY…

-That guy that just cut you off on the road, hasn’t given you a second thought, don’t let him linger in your head.

-That lady in line at the quickie mart rudely talking on the phone so loud you think you’d hear her outside, isn’t giving anyone a second thought, don’t let her aggravate you.

-You boss who walks into the room, grunts and yells and demands unrealistic results then goes back to sit at his desk and surf the internet, isn’t worried about how you feel, don’t let him spend any time in your thoughts

Let these people go.  You have no control over what they say, what they do… you can only control how you react.

Take a deep breath, do the best you can do.  Be satisfied that you are doing the best you can do, be content in yourself.  smile.

You are your own worst critic, don’t assume you know what people think… just because you can hear what they say.  You be the best that you can be, you think about you in positive and uplifting terms… and you concentrate on everything positive.. and your life will be positive.

The more you concentrate on the negative and depressing things that happen to you and people around you, the more negative and depressing your life will become.  Find Happiness, Grace, Hope, Joy in everything.  Take a moment every hour to realize something awesome… and your day will be transformed.

Make Today Amazing!

 

 

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